Wednesday, April 20, 2011

You Were Someone's Dream

So I'm unabashedly inspired by the show "Parenthood".  It's a simple show.  There is some drama, and some mundanity.... but it's a show of a family, an extended and sometimes complicated family, making it work.

I watched an episode tonight where a Grandfather spoke candidly to his Grandaughter: "I dreamed of my grandchildren.  I dreamed of you.  You have no right to mess with my dreams."

He was speaking to her regarding her life choices, etc... but the moment hit me so directly.  We were and are someone's dream.  What if every person knew and believed that?

One of the most powerful things ever spoken to me came from my Father.  He once told me that my Mother was one of the happiest women in the world when she was pregnant.  I was her dream.  I grew up knowing and believing that, and I think it shaped me to be the person I am today.

I know that not everyone reading this will have the same sense of wanted-ness.  I am truly lucky.  But I can't stop myself from believing that each and every one of us is someone's dream.  We are intended for people, for influence.  Someone dreamed YOU into existence... how powerful is that?

A dear friend said to me today "Man, Julia... you'll never change.  You will always love everything X 100."  It's just true.  I can't hide from it.  I have tried at different times to be more sarcastic, more cynical, but why?  Why try to be anything that you are not?  I can't pretend that I don't get giddy over the amazing people and phenomenal experiences of my life.  My heart is my Rockstar.  My people love me for my heart, and I deserve that... and you do too.

I was and am someone's dream.  As are you.  If we all walked with that, with the idea that maybe someone somewhere had wished and prayed and dreamed us into existance; maybe we'd all be better off.

I love the changing of seasons.  I love people in general.  I love families of all kinds.  I love getting close to people, the comfort of knowing their little secrets... and them knowing mine.  I love laughter and dancing and music and the amazing feeling of creating something massive out of the efforts of many.  I love cheesy inspirational quotes, and I love making people feel better.  I love making people laugh when they are sad.  I love laughing in general.  I love being teased, because I think it means you truly love and respect me.  I love this life.  I love the surprises.  I love it all.

Home is where the heart is?  So find your heart and speak your truth.  I own the fact that this all sounds cheesy and cliche... but it feels true to me.  I can be sarcastic, I'll roll with just about anything.  I love you regardless of your style, because I assume you'll love me for mine.

So sincerely... can you believe that you were someone's dream?  Because I think we'd all be better off and better serving if we felt that.


  1. I never thought about it this way. Thank you for reminding me of the fact that my parents were really hoping for me, they wished for me - I was their dream.
    I forget this sometimes. But you are right, I will try to remember it when I don't feel good about myself. This immediately made me feel happy :)

    And I love your 'cheesy-ness'. That word sounds so negative! But it isn't. I love a lot of the same things you listed and that's good. We're happier for it.

  2. I love "Parenthood" and that exact moment hit me deep too. Your blog is so touching and open. You can feel the vulnerability of your soul as we are reading this. Thank you for putting your experiences and thoughts into a blog for everyone to read,you are inspiring and even made me want to start my own.

  3. Just found your blog through 20sb, and I love your overall theme here. I believe that thinking of yourself as someone's dream is a very positive way of viewing yourself. This post got me thinking about how, even though I'm not crazy about the idea of having to move back in with my parents after grad school graduation, my parents don't see this as a failure. So, thanks for making me feel a little better about myself today.

  4. I agree with all you said here, as always. Your words always ring so very true.

    Like you I believe everyone is someone's dream, but this implies that we have to stick to that dream, to make everything right and to not disappoint. In my opinion, along with someone's dream we are someone's expectation and it kind of create a weight on our shoulders.
    This has made me question myself, can we live-up to that dream someone made for us?
    Isn't considering the fact that we are someone's dream a restraint, a brake? Aren't we too much careful?
    Am I interpreting your post in the right way?
    I don't know, but thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You truly are inspiring.

  5. I couldn't help it, so I'll just say it. Today is a very special day for me, and to have read this just makes me smile even more. Thanks for inspiring me with your posts. I had forgotten about my blog and now I'll just start writing again, because I have so much to share. So thanks Julia...
    much love!

  6. This was one of your first pieces of writing I ever read and it's one of my favourite blog posts of yours. It just speaks to me, it's so true and reading this made realize it for the first time. Thank you for helping me through everything, you're amazing

  7. Julia,
    Everytime I read one of your posts it does brighten my day! You are amazing, and I'd probably cry if you ever changed and became more cynical/Sarcastic. I love you!